1. Don’t let a bad week convince you that you have a bad life. Life comes with ups and downs. Whenever you feel yourself sinking, remind yourself that an up will be on its way. Bad times can feel all-consuming, but you have to remember that they pass. 2. Not everything you do will go to plan — but don’t focus solely on the outcome. Focus on the fact that you were brave enough to try. That in itself is a win, not a failure. 3. Never keep your problems to yourself. They’ll just bubble up and up until you explode. Instead of suffering in silence, realise that there is help out there and people to talk to. Opening up is the first step toward healing.
4. Don’t judge other people without knowing their story. People are the way they are for a reason. You don’t know those reasons, so you can’t judge. Be mindful of this with every person you meet, every encounter you have, and every judgment you make.
5. There is no point in getting wrapped up in high school worries. None of them will matter when you leave. (Trust me.) You can save yourself a lot of stress and upset if you choose not to take any of it too seriously.
6. Try not to care what other people think. Worrying about what others might think of you is a real waste of time and energy. You have to stop and ask yourself: does it even matter? Refusing to stress over what other people think of you is one of the biggest keys to freedom.
7. That boy (or girl) that broke your heart won't be the only person you'll ever love. Don’t lose sight of the fact that your heart’s not going to hurt like this forever. There will be other people who come into your life that will be just as special — if not even more so. 8. Don’t stress about the little things. There are so many small, daily things that we allow ourselves to get hung up on. Start being mindful of your negative thoughts and shake off what’s not important. You’ll be amazed by how much happier you'll start to feel.
9. Every new day is an opportunity to change your life. It’s never too late to start.
10. Make memories and make the most, because you won’t be young forever. Seize the time that you have now and make every moment count.
11. A lot of the things that keep you up at night worrying won’t even matter in a year’s time. Stop worrying so much. You'll get through it, you'll come out the other side – and, oftentimes, you'll probably forget that it ever even happened. Save yourself the time, stress and energy.
12. One small comment has the power to affect someone forever. Always be mindful of what you say to people. What you might think is a small, passing comment, could well stay with someone for the rest of their life. Sometimes, if you don’t have anything nice to say, it’s best not to say anything at all.
13. Not everyone’s going to like you — and that’s okay. You’ll never be able impress everyone, but it’s the people you do impress that matter. If you can accept that, you can save yourself a lot of stress. There is nothing you can do to win over everybody; it’s simply a losing battle. All you can do is make sure that you’re a good person – the rest is something you can’t force.
14. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. You'll never truly know everything about a person or what they've been through – so don't be naïve enough to assume that you do. There’s an untold story behind every person you meet.
15. Don’t stress yourself out by constantly striving to be as ‘good’ as other people. You are your own person. Focus on growing and progressing in your own time, rather than wasting unnecessary energy comparing yourself to others. The only person you should ever strive to be is the best version of yourself.
16. Focus on how far you’ve come — not on how far you have left to go. We spend far too much time beating ourselves up, and not enough time praising ourselves. Choose to build yourself up, rather than tearing yourself down.
17. Spend as much time as you can with the people you love, because they’re not going to be around forever. When they’re gone, you don’t want to regret time that you never got to spend with them, or things that you never got to say.
18. Stop worrying about the future. You never know what the future will bring, so there's no point in stressing about it. Instead, just take each day of your life one step at a time.
19. Pain ends, things get better, and you should be around to see it.
20. You probably won’t have all of your shit together by the age of 20... but that’s okay. Love, |
Saturday, 30 July 2016
20 Things I've Learned in 20 Years
Sunday, 29 May 2016
Things to do this Summer
HANG OUT AT A BEER GARDEN ![]() |
A classic British favourite: head down to one
of your local beer gardens and enjoy some drinks with friends in the sun.
MAKE
COCKTAILS (OR MOCKTAILS)
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Grab a friend or two, look up some
tasty cocktail recipes, throw some of your favourite together and sip them in
the sunshine.
HAVE
A BACK-GARDEN 'FESTIVAL'
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VISIT A FOOD FESTIVAL
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Summer is the perfect time for outdoor food
festivals. Keep an eye out for one happening in your local area!
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GO TO THE BEACH
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And remember – it’s not a trip to the
beach without fish & chips and ice cream!
HAVE A PICNIC
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MAKE
A SUMMER PLAYLIST
GO CAMPING![]() |
Go for
a stroll through the park, buy yourself some ice cream and soak up the nice
weather. You could always take some pretty snaps for Instagram, too!
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HAVE A BARBEcUE
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There's nothing quite like the smell of a barbecue on a hot summer’s day. *Drool* Even better if you invite some friends round to join the cookout!
VISIT A FAIRGROUND OR THEME-PARK
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On a
sunny day, go strawberry picking at a local field. Once you’ve brought them
home, you could bake with them, blend them up for a smoothie, dip them in chocolate, serve
them with cream… The options are endless!
EAT OUTSIDE
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Eating
outside is such a simple thing to do, but it always reminds me
of being away on holiday. So go ahead and make the most of the good weather while it lasts!
HOST A GARDEN PARTY
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Grab
the bunting, the plastic cups and the fairy-lights, blast out your favourite
summer jams, and throw a cute little party in your back garden with friends!
SNUGGLE UP AROUND A CAMPFIRE
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Snuggle
up around a fire with blankets, toast some marshmallows, have a few drinks and
enjoy a chilled evening with good company.
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Last but not least – don’t
forget to document your adventures! Make happy memories this summer that will
last a life-time.
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Thursday, 26 May 2016
Sunday, 22 May 2016
Sunday, 1 May 2016
15 Things People With Social Anxiety Want You To Know
1. I’m sorry if I come across as rude — I promise I don’t mean to be. When my anxiety flares up, I start second-guessing everything I say and do. A million thoughts start rushing through my head and I don’t know which ones to listen to and which ones to shut out. This makes it hard for me to know exactly how to act — so I might become quiet, or reply in a way which seems odd or abrupt. It’s not because I don’t want to talk to you. It’s because, in that moment, I don’t know how.
2. I get tired a lot. (No, seriously. A lot.) Anxiety is *tiring*. Every day is a struggle, every small task takes a huge amount of mental exertion, and panic attacks put a huge amount of physical stress on your body. All of the added stresses that come with day-to-day life can make it exhausting.
3. Being anti-social is not the same as being socially anxious. Mental illnesses and personality traits are not the same thing. Remember: illnesses don’t discriminate. Social anxiety can develop in even the most social, outgoing people.
4. Sometimes I’ll go quiet or appear to "zone out". I promise I’m not disinterested, bored or moody. When I go quiet, it’s probably because there’s a lot of anxious thoughts running through my head, or because I’m focussing on calming myself down.
5. Spontaneous plans are hard for me. Really, really hard. I need time to mentally prepare myself for social situations. Having something sprung on me last-minute is almost guaranteed to send me into a panic. If you want to understand, imagine that you had to give a huge presentation to a room of a thousand people. You’d want to be prepared, right? Now imagine that you only had ten minutes to prepare this presentation. Yep. That’s how it feels.
6. Oh, and I need plans to be detailed, too. Where are we meeting? When are we meeting? How are we getting there? How are we leaving? Again, I need to mentally prepare myself for all of these things. So I’m sorry if I seem pushy when it comes to the little details. I’m just trying to ease my anxiety. I don’t mean to be a pest!
7. I get “people hangovers”. The added effort and difficulty that comes with socialising takes a lot out of me. Socialising is easiest when it’s done in small bursts – and after that, I’m going to needsome time to myself to recharge my batteries.
8. Talking on the phone is HARD. (And I’ll probably just ignore your call.) If you want to talk to me, messaging is probably your best bet. Soz.
9. I WILL assume that you're mad at me, no matter what. It doesn’t matter how often you claim to, or how often we speak to each other… deep down, my anxious thoughts will always insist that you don’t actually like me. Sometimes I might even isolate myself because of it. Reassurance helps a lot.
10. That's why I’m so bad at initiating conversation. If I don’t message you, it’s not because I can’t be bothered to make an effort with you. It’s because the whole thing turns me into a bundle of anxiety. I assume that you won’t want to talk to me, or that I’ll annoy you, or that you’ll just laugh about it behind my back.
11. I’m also really bad at replying to messages. (Don’t take it personally.) Reading and replying to messages also makes me anxious. That little notification to say that I’ve got a new message? Terrifying. The whole thing feels like so much pressure, and I can put it off for days. But don’t worry — it’s not you, it’s me. It’s all me.
12. Social anxiety isn’t “cute”, “quirky” or “trendy”. Social anxiety can ruin relationships, opportunities, your social life, your confidence and your happiness. It’s not a label to adopt because you think it makes you different, or because you want to get some attention.
13. Making me feel stupid for my anxieties is one of the worst things someone could ever do. I don’t WANT to be like this, and I don’t need anyone to make me feel worse about it. My confidence is low enough as it is, and I already beat myself up every single day. I don’t need someone to make me feel as if I’m stupid or pathetic, all because of an illness that I never asked for.
14. I’m sorry. I’m sorry that I can be difficult. I’m sorry that I can be hard to understand. I’m sorry for the invites that I’ve turned down, the plans that I’ve cancelled, and the times that I’ve made things harder than they needed to be. I’m sorry for every time that my problem has become your problem. I’m really, truly sorry.
15. Kindness is absolutely invaluable to people suffering from social anxiety. Pleasant people lead to pleasant social experiences — and this is exactly what someone like me needs when we’re feeling anxious or discouraged. Making our day that little bit easier is absolutely invaluable to us, and it won’t go unnoticed. So be kind, and spread that kindness wherever you go. You might just make someone’s day.
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